She said, I just need to do X, Y, and Z. It'll only take 5 minutes.
I stopped giving my attention
Everyone has that one friend on their list who is good at showing up late…
I have one–seeing a movie, would show up halfway through it, going to a wedding, didn't make it until after the ceremony, and so on.
This bothers me to the point where I take it personally.
One day, some years ago, a group of us made plans to go to a concert. The venue is about an hour and a half away, and they decided to make me their pickup guy.
The day before, I told everyone to show is at X so get ready to go at Y, I’ll pick everyone up.
Everyone including that friend agrees to get their ass ready on time.
And the day of the concert, I texted this friend saying “I’m leaving my home now” (she lives close by) and she replied ‘OK’.
I got to her house and waited there for 5 min, she didn't come out, so i called her.
She said, “Yeah, i’m still at the store”.
Right then, My mind just went wild, first of all, I was sick of waiting for her, second, other people were waiting for me and third, they were talking all about this concert and excited about this day.
So told her right then, ‘fuck it, B’, You are not even close to being ready, you are your own and hung up.
Then I went to pick up the others and drove down.
Since then, I’ve just let the punctuality of other people go. It is out of my control and we can't just be bothered about something that is out of my control anymore.
If people don't wanna show up then that's on them, and it's they who are missing out on the most fun and experience.
Especially for an adult, if they are late for the majority of your meet-ups without an adequate excuse, I’ll say it again without a fair excuse, that is something that needs to be worked on as a priority in their character, due to it being the bare minimum that you ought to do in social circles and family.
Whether it’s poor time management or procrastination, ultimately even the people who treat you like that are saying “Hey, you're time doesn't mean that much”.
Some people can tolerate this behavior by saying “Well that's just him/her”, or “it the nature” and in some way, it's not something we should take easily and lightly and don't wanna be treated like this.
So choose to never waste your time on people who don't value it, But don't forget to take some of your time for people who do value it.
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